Talk of getting older
It has been quite a lot of time since my last update and that is a good thing! Michele is doing well in her recovery. She has had a few minor scares where her oncologist had her do a few cat scans and MRIs to look at a few things but they have all come back negative and we are so thankful for that. Yes, in case you were wondering, the extremely astute and observant oncologist still thinks I am a hunk of burning male sexuality. Such a smart and pleasant lady.
So why am I sending an update? I am not quite sure, if I am being honest. Sometimes I fancy myself an amateur artist, occasionally inspired by what I see or hear. For example, I remember the exact moment when I was dropping off Liliana and Anabella to school one day as Michele was about to start chemo when I heard Rachel Platten’s “Fight Song” on the radio. It inspired me to create a montage of sorts to give Michele a boost as she started an agonizing chemo regiment. Unfortunately for me, Michele did not stop at pulverizing cancer. After pummeling cancer, she has continued her rampaging ways by beating me senseless with an onslaught of jabs, uppercuts and hooks in the form of tirades about me not doing enough around the house, being the Jolly Green Giant of ineffectiveness with disciplining the kids and mostly importantly for my being just too friggin sexy (she claims it is debilitatingly distracting). For the first two charges I plead the 5th and for the third charge I plead no contest.
Anyway, my amateur ear caught some music on the radio once again and it has inspired me to update this blog. I am little embarrassed because once again, like Ms. Platten, the song that motivated me is not one that would normally be on my playlist.
Rufus – I do not know who you are or who you were trying to reach in your song or if you were trying to reach anyone at all but I can affirm that on a recent day of no particular importance, your song found me. Not all of your lyrics in this song are appropriate for the message I am trying to convey, in fact it is mostly the refrain that resonates, but for whatever reason your song grabbed me at a specific moment and it led to my typing this missive and for that I thank you.
The song has me recalling my natural apprehension on my wedding day, apprehension surrounding whether or not I was making the right decision in marrying Michele. My uncertain, fear-of-risk self at that time was pondering whether the marriage I was about to commit to was something that I was ready to undertake. I do not think this is an extraordinary revelation for any man about to be married. Of course guys love the women they are about to get married to but if any guy tells you that he did not allow anxiety or nervousness enter his mind on the day of his wedding he is lying to you. It is supposed to be a life-long commitment and the gravity of that weighed on me on our wedding day but when the veil was lifted and I looked into Michele’s beautiful and caring eyes, my apprehension was vanquished. I enthusiastically kissed my bride and welcomed the road that lay ahead of us.
Michele and I had no earthly idea just how bumpy that road would end up being but here we are, no regrets and forging ahead (it does not help that Michele’s gender induced driving disability causes her to seemingly swerve towards potholes but I digress). I referenced my apprehension on our wedding day for a specific reason…because it highlights the ignorance that I think most men unknowingly harbor as they contemplate if they are making the right decision, never fully grasping that the person that they are committing to will make them a better person on multiple levels. This may not be the case in every instance but I can affirm unequivocally that Michele has made me a better person and continues to do so everyday … and what could possibly be more important than that? (maybe tacos)? This created and continues to add to a debt that I cannot possibly ever repay but I promise to do what I can to chip away at it.
I just want to treat you better.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B00tQEu6n9o